Feb 26, 2021
The Antidote To Anger
Anger is so prevalent in our world today. People are angry with each other, angry about things that have happened in the past, and angry at how the world is changing. Anger is a low vibration, and so we must move past this anger if we want to progress on this ascension journey, both individually and collectively. In this blog, we will discuss the antidote, the cure, to anger.
Before we talk about the cure, we must first talk about the cause of anger. All anger is caused by the same thing — resistance. Whenever something happens that our egos don’t like, we get angry. The ego will say things like “They shouldn’t have done that”, or “That shouldn’t have happened”, or “This shouldn’t be happening”. The ego builds expectations of how things should and shouldn’t be, how things should and shouldn’t happen, and how people should and shouldn’t act. Anything that falls short of the ego’s expectations will be met with resistance, and this resistance creates anger. Therefore, how angry you are is an indication of how resistant your ego is to life, and is also an indication of how much you are associated with your ego. It is absurd to think that life should be set up to just meet your individual ego’s expectations, yet you will still react angrily to whatever expectations are not met.
But if you think about it for a moment, do you truly want all your ego’s expectations to be met all the time? Imagine how boring life would be if everything occurred as expected. Imagine if everyone behaved as you expected. Imagine if all events in your life were as expected. There would be no variety, no surprises, no excitement, and no growth. So you know deep down that you don’t want things to meet your expectations, yet you continue to be angry when things aren’t as expected. This is why we say that the ego’s programming controls your life without you being conscious of it. It controls your thoughts, emotions, actions and words without you even being aware that you are being controlled. It is not until you wake up to who you really are that you start getting back control of your life.
Since resistance is what causes anger, it follows then that acceptance is the cure. When you fully accept people for who they are and how they choose to act, when you fully accept what you have experienced in the past, when you fully accept what you are experiencing in your life now, you no longer feel anger towards these things. Think of times in your life when you were so angry at something or someone, but then over time that anger went away. Perhaps you now look back and think it was silly to get angry at those things. Why do you think that is? It is because, over time, you have gradually learned to accept what happened. Your anger has gradually transformed into acceptance.
When anger arises, not only does the ego resist the person or situation that has allowed this anger to arise, but the ego also resists the emotion of anger itself, and so it will try to suppress the anger. See how absurd the ego is? So, when you feel yourself getting angry at something or someone, you must learn to first accept that you are experiencing anger. Accept this anger as this emotion is trying to teach you something. It’s trying to tell you that you are holding on to certain expectations, and you need to let those expectations go. By accepting that you are experiencing the emotion of anger, and by accepting the person or event that has allowed the anger within you to come out, you are then able to learn from the experience and no longer have the same expectations. By following this process of acceptance and self-reflection, you ensure that you do not react angrily to anything in the future.
However, you do not need to wait until you experience anger before you use the antidote of acceptance. You can be proactive by starting each day with the relaxed mentality of not expecting anything and just going with the flow. By understanding that whatever happens each day is for the highest good of all, how could you react angrily to anything? In this way, you get yourself into a state of acceptance before you even experience anything. It is the ego that wishes to control all aspects of life, and so it doesn’t want to surrender to life because it hates uncertainty. The ego is very analytical, methodical, and imperfect, so if it were able to be in compete control of life, life would be boring, devoid of love, and there would be no beauty in it at all. But when you surrender to the uncertain will of the Divine, you allow yourself to see the beauty, magic, mystery and divinity inherent within all of life. As a result of completely surrendering and accepting, you will begin to truly love all aspects of life.
In response to reading this, your ego may start to say things like “Oh but you don’t know what this person did to me”, or “Yes, but surely I am justified to be angry for what happened”, or “What’s the harm in being angry?”. See, the ego uses anger to complain about life, to bitch about others, and to justify a victimhood mentality. But you are never a victim. You choose every trauma you experience before you incarnate into a life in order to learn important spiritual lessons (such as forgiveness). But what usually happens is we don’t properly deal with the emotions that we experience as a result of those past traumas, and so we don’t end up learning the lessons intended by those experiences. As a result, these emotions remain suppressed within us and we get into a victimhood mentality. Life is a mirror, and it reflects what you believe and how you feel within yourself. So, if you believe you are a victim to life, life will bring you situations and people that make it seem like you are a victim. If you have a lot of anger within you, life will keep bringing you people and situations that get you angry. If you feel like you are not worthy of love, life will reflect this back at you. If you feel like you are an unlucky person, life will make it seem as if you are unlucky. If you believe people are nasty, life will surround you with people who are nasty to you.
At first, you may feel like this is a horrible system, but if you think about it, this is actually such a perfect benevolent system. How can you deal with your emotions if you are suppressing them all the time? So life brings you situations to help bring out those emotions within you so that you can deal with them. You keep avoiding learning the lessons that you came here to learn, so life brings you more situations to try and push you to learn those lessons. Honestly, would you have it any other way? When we experience trauma and don’t deal with our anger appropriately, we suppress this anger and our ego builds up expectations of how people and life should be so that we don’t feel this anger again. Inevitably, life will bring you people and situations that don’t fulfil your ego’s expectations in order to bring your suppressed anger to the surface so that you can deal with it. Therefore, it is never something or someone outside of you that causes your anger, but this anger was already within you, and something or someone is helping to bring this anger out of you so you can deal with it. In this way, the situations you experience and the people you encounter are your teachers rather than the causes of your anger.
This benevolent system is also helping you realise that you are the creator of your reality. How can you know that you create your reality unless your negativity and low vibrations are reflected back at you? By accepting that you always create your reality, you no longer think of yourself as a victim, and you are able to start consciously changing your life for the better. But to see positive changes in your life, you must first change from within, and you will never be able to change from within without acceptance.
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